Question: If you have a boyfriend but your friends do not really like him. Or if your boyfriend do not really like your friends. What would you do?

Answer: Break either side of the relationship? Of course not! Seriously i do not know what to do. It is like in a situation whereby a sandwich, one side is a slice of ham and the other side is a slice of cheese, if one of the fillings gone it won't be perfect. Or take your hand as an example. Both sides are your flesh. In fact it is hard to handle this kind of situation.

Humans are just so interesting. One may not see the good view of another one but the bad view and vice versa. Therefore, they start bad-mouthing, backstabbing or even have the jealousy feeling on each other. Heard some news from my friends and didn't know that behind my boyfriend's back, he is facing some unseen conflicts.

Basically, i know my boyfriend character pretty well. In fact those who are close with him should know him well! He is those type of person who doesn't know how to put good words in his mouth. I admit that at times the way he talks may sound sarcastic but it does not have thorns in it. Eventually, it would lead to many misunderstandings.
Rumours spreading that he is using his In-Charge authority to press his staffs down, the way he talks or handles some working stuffs is wrong and worst of all, a bastard/bitch claims that he/she should be the one that deserves the promotion.

First two listed above i can admit that partly it is my boyfriend's fault.
I ever saw it with my own eyes that when comes to work topics, he would eventually mention his In-Charge position out. Of course to me, i know that he is saying in a joking manner yet at the same time i feel that he is trying to show off about his position. But to others, they won't be able to see the joking side of his, in fact, the angle that they saw was my boyfriend is just being proud.
Another thing is that sometimes the way he handles with his staffs or his decisions making may not come to an agreement among his colleagues, please bear with it. I believe he has his own reason why these things should or should not be performed in these way. He ought to see how's the shop current situations' like before agreeing to the other party's request. Again it may lead to some disagreement. That is because the other party's mindset is not the same as him.

As for the last listed above, i have to say that it is not a matter of fair or unfair issue. If he/she is really capable, no matter how long he/she has worked for the company, be it, a week, a month or a year, one's performance cannot be hide.
So what he/she works longer or i should say join the company earlier than my boyfriend and he/she SHOULD be the one getting the promotion. Hey! Come on lah. I mean if he/she really has the abilities and capabilities, the head authorities would know! Also, it was not the previous In-Charge who gives my boyfriend a chance and promotes him, but the one who holds the highest position did it. No point bad-mouthing around.
Yes, my boyfriend is new to retail line and i can see that he is trying to do his best in this line. From the moment he started working, he never stops himself from working OT, he always try to get things done quickly and efficiently, he never ever complain to me that he is stressed. Ever quarrelled with him due to these because i felt neglected. As i had said he never works at retail line before so sometimes people might think that he isn't good enough. One thing i can assure is when comes to work, he can be very serious but after work, he's no longer the one you people faced at work.

So much of paragraphs are just stating the feelings of my boyfriend. I know it is not easy to be a In-Charge. As for me, i am really like a sandwich. Upcoming problems to face will be one group of gathering. Definitely i do not want to see my friends putting a mask in front of them to meet my boyfriend and i. On the other hand, they would also feel weird coming to the gathering but just because i am their friend and he is my boyfriend, they simply give some face and attend. This is what i do not wish to see.

Of course, due to this, i quarrelled with him. I'm not those type of person that would side my boyfriend or side my friends. I know that for this situation, my boyfriend has his wrong doings. On the other hand, i really hope that colleagues of him could have some understandings.
I do not want my friends to use another eye to look upon my boyfriend. I mind it alot!
Perhaps i fail to be a good girlfriend.

Finding a solution to this situation. What i thought of is to talk some sense to my boyfriend. I want him to change his talking attitude first and ignore whatever rumours spreading about him. Because i believe that one has eyes to see other people changes.
Again our talks turned out to be quarrels. Anyway, i managed to let him know my opinions and understand the situation of his. I believe he will change but it takes time. No one can successfully change a person's characters over a night.

To my friends out there, pardon for everything that happens. Also got to thank for all your understandings.